Invest in yourself: an act of defiant self-love

Written By Dara Murray

There’s a common narrative that womxn consistently put others before themselves, which is the reason why womxn are not more prevalent business owners or hold C-suite roles. 

Known as the family-work balance, these tired anecdotes really haven't changed since the 1940s. It is still a common story that womxn leave the workplace to care for their families or are less ambitious due to familial responsibilities. 

This completely disregards the fact that many womxn are working professionals AND the primary domestic executive for their household, which means they’re bearing the brunt of second-shift work. The unspoken part of this narrative is that men continue to be the primary or sole income for their nuclear families.  

However, this narrative is at odds with the data. 

Beyond this patriarchal ignorance of modern family structures, data shows womxn are a driving force in the U.S. economy. 

  • According to the U.S. Department of Commerce, womxn-owned businesses continually grow year over year. 

  • The growth is outpacing that of men-owned businesses.

  • More than 11.8 million womxn-owned firms generate $1.7 trillion in sales and employ nine million people.

  • This is nearly 40% of all privately-held businesses in the United States. 

And it’s only growing. 

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Who runs the world?!

We need to erase the narrative that diminishes the fact that there are more womxn-owned businesses than ever before and will soon outnumber men-owned businesses. 

It’s outdated, false, heteronormative, and harmful. 

We, as womxn, are internalizing these concepts and it’s very likely subconsciously impacting the way we approach growing our businesses.

It’s essential to invest in ourselves and our businesses. Yet, we find ourselves in a predicament. First, we’re consistently told (through media and experiences) that womxn are less ambitious, less successful, less connected than our male counterparts. 

In addition, womxn (especially womxn of color) are often punished for their ambition, for being forthright, and for speaking truth to power. 

Womxn who are successful are often viewed in a negative light, particularly when addressing their personality. These biases directly impact womxn’s ability to rise the ranks and can leave our confidence tarnished. 

As Alicia Menendez, author of The Likeability Trap: How to Break Free and Succeed as You Are, puts it:

“Be nice, but not too nice. Be successful, but not too successful. Just be likeable. Whatever that means?”

Therefore, it’s understandable that we may be hesitant to take the leaps necessary to grow our businesses. Let’s shift that frame of thinking. We deserve better. 

No matter how you slice it, investing time, money, and energy in ourselves is always a leap of faith. 

And, it’s a risk that is critical for business growth. 

  • Investing time to connect with fellow entrepreneurs helps us build community and expand our horizons. 

  • Investing money in personal and professional development guides us towards the success we’ve only dreamed of.

  • Identifying our goals and allocating resources is paramount to our ability to reach them. 

No matter how you decide to invest in yourself, remember that in doing so, you’re carving out space for yourself and other womxn business owners to thrive. 

Investing in ourselves is an act of defiant self-love. 

We deserve it, we desire it, and we need it to grow. 

If you’re seeking a way to invest in yourself and your business, check out the Bloom Retreat. It’s an intentional retreat focused on rejuvenation: for yourself and your business. 

The Bloom Retreat is an opportunity for you to: 

  • Prioritize yourself 

  • Escape from the daily grind 

  • Collaborate with peers and industry professionals 

  • Identify your goals and how to reach them

  • Discover community with fellow small business owners 

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Dara Murray https://daralainemurray.com
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